Hello!

Let me start by saying a warm welcome to whoever you may be.


This Blog is about being nice. The whole aspect of being a nice person, what makes a person nice? What does it mean to be a nice person in the 21st century? Is being nice now almost seen as a failure, or bizarrely untrustworthy? How many times have I heard the phrase "You can't trust her, she's too nice" How many of those times have I said that myself? When did nice become a dirty word? How can I be nice when the whole world and it's mother is PISSING ME OFF?

Now I'm not saying being nice is the be all and end all, its not a black and white subject. There's always layers to any situation involving the treatment of someone or something, but deep down each person knows which is the right or wrong way of acting and reacting.

I try to be a nice person but most of the time if I'm honest, there is constant battle with my inner bitch and at times there is nothing more delicious than letting her flag fly. What concerns me is when she permits every thought and emotion, making me negative, miserable, projecting that negativity onto others and the way I live my life.

Why is our first reaction to most things a negative one? There is nothing wrong with a certain amount of suspicion, it's programmed in us as human nature, in our instinct for survival, but does this explain why it is so easy to be horrible?

As I get older instead of becoming wiser I'm just bitter, something which I have always felt is not in my nature. So here I am, writing this blog to try and do something about it I suppose. I have called myself a wannabe hippy in the past, maybe it taps into that as well, a way of sharing and trying to create love. Whatever, it's just something I feel have to do.

Being nice to people is something I had thought came very naturally to me, one of my mantra's is 'it's nice to be nice' and I stand by it. There is nothing shitter than making someone feel like crap for no good reason. I can't abide bullies, intimidation or any injustice and pride myself on standing up for what I believe in and I believe in being nice!

So this is going to document my struggle, to make the world a better place be being nice. I know its not going to be easy and I promise to be brutally honest in the way I feel. Please don't think I'm some kind of sap, I'm well aware it's impossible to be nice all the time and fucking hell, if I'm honest who would want to? It's good to let rip, its healthy, but the bitterness that can be left behind after the anger has gone, serves no purpose at all apart from to torment you.

Its not just about being nice to other people either, I am my own bully, cruel and tormenting. I'm sure you know how easy it is to tear yourself apart. One of the best pieces of advice I have ever been given is to treat yourself as you would your best friend.

All my love xx